Safire wrote:Bin: feminism helps change the idea that rape is a natural state that men are somehow unable to control. You’re right that rape is unlikely to ever be eradicated, just like many of the nasty things in this world but things can change and get better and cases of rape can go down.
To rape is a choice and the actions of the victim are in no way a reason to rape them.
For example a woman who wears skimpy clothes is often thought to be “asking to be raped” and yet rape happened to Victorian women who had dresses down to their ankles and it happens to many Muslim women who are also dressed head to toe also. It is never the victims fault. And the same goes for male victims of rape, they didn’t do anything to encourage the attack and they are in no way emasculated because of it.
The notion that rape is something men are unable to control is something I've only ever heard from people who call themselves feminists. As a man, I've never once been around someone and thought "Damn, it's a good thing I've got all this self-control or I would totally rape them".
I think that using the words 'fault' and 'blame' in this kind of context never really seems right. Don't get me wrong, I am in no way saying that a girl dressed 'slutty' is deserving of being raped or is asking to be raped but I think there are reasonable expectations of behaviour independent of other people's decision. For example, if someone went out wearing nothing but a g-string and they were groped by someone, the groper is clearly in the wrong and has done an illegal action but, at the same time, going out wearing nothing but a g-string is an incredibly bad decision. It's difficult to explain.
Whilst a man is in no way emasculated if they're raped, they may still feel emasculated. Male rape is often treated as something funny as opposed to the 'more serious' female rape which can also severely negatively affect the victim's mental state.
I stand by more earlier point that I don't think feminism is or will do anything to change views on rape or reduce the number of rapes.